Sitting in the Suckage

Do you know there’s a good chance that people around you right now may be wearing the obligatory smiles through this Holiday season but they are covering up a world of hurt??

The holidays really are difficult for a LOT of people, for a LOT of different reasons, even if it is something wonderful for you and yours. For those who are hurting…their stories are valid, as are their (maybe even your…) feelings.

Sometimes people don’t need family and friends to insist they “cheer up!” or to hear “don’t you just love the holidays??” over and over as they grit their teeth and fake a smile through January.

Sometimes….it just needs to be okay to sit in the suckage. 
And maybe you could even take a moment to sit in the suckage with them. 
Just let it stink. 
Don’t jump to fix it. 
Simply acknowledge it and let them know they have a friend in you, if needed.

For some people, the struggle around the holidays can often lead to a very dark & twisty place. A place of intense sadness, loneliness and despair and they need to know they’re not alone. You are not alone.

So I hereby grant each and every one of you the permission to NOT be okay this month.  
And the permission to do something that DOES bring you joy, or at the very least, comfort. (preferably something legal, healthy, and that won’t get you on the six o’clock news )

Maybe it’s a roadtrip to Arizona or just down the Coast, or a cruise to the Bahamas…or maybe it’s just unapologetically NOT decorating your house and enjoying entire series of your favorite shows on Netflix or Hulu… (Golden Girls is always a great distraction!) 

Also, I ask that you extend this “permission” to everyone in your life.

Oh, and if YOU happen to be the one struggling, I’m here.